Why Failure is Necessary

Many of us are afraid of failure. Why is this so? Maybe this stems from our schooling or our upbringing. From a young age we have been taught that failure is unacceptable. If we did not do well on a test in school, we were looked down upon. If we did not know the answer in class, or if we got the wrong answer in class, we were laughed at or made to feel embarrassed. Kids in school who get the best grades and make the least mistakes are praised by teachers, parents, and society; they are expected to excel in life, while C students are expected to live a life of mediocrity. In our school systems and in our society, failure is not accepted.

This mindset is a dream killer. If you long to start your own business or to try something different today with this mentality, you will not reach your goals. 

 

Instead of viewing failure as negative, you should view failure as positive and necessary. You should not be afraid to fail because it is impossible to be successful without failing. In fact, failure is the key to success. 

 

I get it though. It is scary to put yourself out there to potentially fail in front of a lot of people or even just in front of yourself. A lot of people are handicapped by fear, but we cannot let failure cripple us. The reality is if we don’t fail then we don’t succeed! So many people don’t act because they are scared. But an essential component of becoming successful in all that we do is by operating outside of our comfort zones. All successful people operate out of their comfort zones. They act in spite of their fears.

 

Failure is making progress towards your dreams. We learn from failure. Failure teaches us lessons that we need in order to excel. The important part is to not let failure keep us down; we need to get back up and bounce back!! Even more so, failure equals progress because action is being taken. If you let fear stop you, then no action is being taken, making it impossible to move towards success.

 

So the next question is… “How do I cope with the fear of failure?”

 

Well, as my mentors have always explained to me, if you can change your mind, you can change your world. A lot of people fear failure, and thus refuse to act because they are afraid of how it will make them feel. Remember, we as human beings like to do what makes us feel good. So, how can we make ourselves see failure in a more positive light? How can we feel good about failure? We  must shift our paradigms. Instead of thinking of failure in a negative way, we must look at it in a positive light, for failure will bring us closer to achieving our dreams!! More importantly, if we do not want to fail because we don’t want to feel a certain way, what this really is, is us being scared of something that is totally under our control. We control how we think and we control how we feel.

 

People often beat themselves up when they don’t meet their expectations, but what you should do is treat yourself with love, care and compassion; you should have your own back! So it is up to you whether you respond negatively or positively to failure. You choose how you feel!
  

Conquer your fears and go out and fail until you succeed!

Using Newton's 3rd Law to Get the Results You Want

• Newton’s Law of Motion: For every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction.

• Karma: What goes around comes back around.

• Swami Vivekananda: “We reap what we sow. We are the makers of our own fate. The wind is blowing; those vessels whose sails are unfurled catch it, and go forward on their way, but those which have their sails furled do not catch the wind. Is that the fault of the wind?....... We make our own destiny.”

Here are three findings that, although said in different ways, have the same meaning. This is why we must spread love, generosity and life in what we think, say and do instead of spreading hate, greed and death. If you love others, you will be loved in return; if you hate others, you will be hated in return. If you give unsparingly to others, you will be rich; If you are selfish and take from others, you will be unfulfilled. If you speak life unto others, you will have lived a great life; if you influence death unto others, along with them you will die, too.

It all comes down to our thoughts, our feelings and our words. If you watched the video, there are specific representations of this subject: the boy represents us as humans, how we throw the ball to the ground represents our feelings, the actual action of the ball being thrown represents our actions, the response of the ground represents our world and how the ball comes back to us represents our results. For example, if you think about throwing the ball hard, you’ll get a pang of adrenaline and then you’ll throw the ball hard to the ground; when the ball hits the ground, the earth will respond by throwing the ball back to you just as hard.  

 

More specifically, having certain thoughts elicits certain feelings, and these feelings influence our actions, and our actions influence the results we have in our lives. A negative thought ultimately leads to negative results. If I spread negativity into the world, then I am going to experience the same negativity. Likewise, if I think, feel and act with negativity, I will also attract negativity. The same goes for positivity. So, if you have been unable to create the positive results or outcomes in your business, in your relationships or in your life, then check your feelings and then check your thoughts that provoke these feelings. If you are aware of how you think, you can change yourself and change your results for the better.

 

However, even when we are aware of how we think about things, sometimes it is difficult to change our thoughts. This is where the power of words comes into play. We have the ability to speak things into existence. Have you ever heard that life and death is in the tongue? Well this is true! Speak and generate positivity into the world and it will come back to you!  If you do this emphatically, and if you do this daily throughout your day, your thoughts will begin to change towards the positive, and so will your feelings, your actions and your results. 

If you are struggling to lead the life you love, it is still possible to turn your results around!
Your results are a direct reflection of your thoughts. Change your thoughts, and you can change your life. :-)

5 Habits of Charasmatic People

As entrepreneurs and as driven people in general, we are always looking for ways to make an impact, to have an influence and to be memorable. Well, these are the accomplishments of charismatic people.

In this world we live in, it is necessary to have this charisma factor, whether it is for an interview for a job position, whether it is for a networking event, or if it is for pitching a project or business plan to investors to start your own business. Charisma is extremely valuable and extremely important. However, many of us lack charisma, and if this is you, do not worry! It can be developed!

So, what makes one charismatic? If you are interested in finding out, you will love this video.

Watch this video by expert human behaviorist, Vanessa Van Edwards to find out!

Abraham Hicks ~ Practice the vibration of what you want - by ignoring it